What Emotional Regulation Actually Looks Like in Daily Life | Emotional regulation tips

Emotional regulation is often misunderstood. Many people believe it means staying calm, controlling emotions, or not reacting at all. When emotions feel intense, they assume they are “bad at regulating.”

In reality, emotional regulation is not about eliminating emotion. It is about how the nervous system notices emotional activation, responds to it, and recovers afterward. For Black women and communities of color — whose emotions have often been scrutinized or minimized — regulation can feel especially complicated.